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Monday, July 09, 2007

A night out with Rad...

Firstly, I'd like to address a typo error in my previous post. Su's sister is not called Raj... she's called Rad... =) Was informed by Su today, and then further confirmed when I saw her laptop with the name "Rad" written on the front! So-o-o... yeah, that's that.

So we went out with Rad & her family this evening for a meal at Miss India where we didn't fight with her dad over the bill. Then Melvyn suggested we go for a spin after that, so we brought them out, up to Mt Coot-tha where the family (except dad) froze to death admiring the "beautiful" view of Brisbane city. But they didn't stay out long because the wind was chillin' our bones, so we all hid in the warmth of the restaurant up there. Then Rad's dad wanted to have a coffee or a hot chocolate, so they started queuing up. Then Melvyn suggested to go Three Monkeys instead! Ok! Zoom! And there we were at Three Monkeys: 3 hot chocolates and a Chunky Chocolate Cheesecake. =) Chatted alot of lame stuff, political issues as well, which I wasn't extremely interested in but participated anyways... just chatted the night away la. Her mum was really quiet though... and her younger sis is SO CUTE! Haha! Su told me she's "especially hyper", but she's been especially shy. Haha! But she's SO-O-O CUTE!!! Really... aiyoh... haha!

We ended the night together at 10:45pm. Reached home at 11, maybe? Got them an extra quilt coz they're so not used to the weather... Luckily tmr they'll be heading to Gold Coast already... short holiday for the family... so nice! Rad will be back on Saturday though, while the rest of her family flies back to Singapore. And then she'll most probably be hanging out with us most of the time loh. Haha! Yay! But *sigh* Why is it that all the fun seems to come just when I most look like I have to leave? *shakes head in despair* *sigh*

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Nobody is born equipped with the know-hows of the dating game. We all learn through mistakes and failures, whether with the same partner throughout, or with different people who are able to help us grow & learn about different areas of our lives that we're lacking in. We need to learn these valuable lessons and change our character because if it is a poor character that is the problem, then we will always be in a poor-relationship loop if we don't change that bad character. We need to be afraid of the consequences of not changing - that is, not being able to hold up a long-term relationship. We need to be honest with ourselves and see that the common denominator in our broken and/or past relationships is us. Find the fault, change the fault. It's not always someone else.

Most people (k, many) have a list of criteria they look for in a partner. These include what they desire to be essential in their partner, as well as extras that can be done without but would be nice to have. This would be the list of things that we can live with. But more imporatantly, as well as more neglected, is what we cannot live with. Little things that irritate the hell outta you can eat at you, slowly undermine the relationship and destroy the foundation that u & ur partner has built. We should all have a list of things we cannot tolerate, but we need also to be realistic and strike off some of those things because no one is perfect. We have to accept some minor flaws in our partners and try to change them, but if it fails, be prepared to live with it... compromise. I would like to list some examples but it would take too long to type the explanation. So if u wanna know more, check up this book:

"Boundaries Before Marriage"
by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend.

It's a good book so far... touches on how we can incorporate GOD's word into our dating and relationships. It's also a realistic book that tells us to look at things more openly, scrutinize certain things, and to trust GOD more. I haven't finished it, neither am I even halfway through it... but I'll just share abit here & there as I go through the book as a way to remember what I've read, as well as to summarize some key points that I've learnt.

What's your list look like?

What can you not live with?

Love me if you dare... 21:52
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