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Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Communication is KEY!!!

COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!!

In every relationship, communication is key to the survival, maintenance and sanity of the parties involved.

The example here: BGR.

See, when there's no communication, how does one know what his/her significant other is thinking? How does one let the other know of things that makes him/her dissatisfied? How to let the other know what is being done wrongly or unneccessarily?

On a happier note, how does one let the other know that something's been done right? Something pleases, something brings happiness?

What about requests and actions and performance? Praises and rebukes? All the chatter about a-day-in-the-life-of... It lets u know how your partner's day has been, and lets u in on the moods & the feelings & whatnot.

See how important communication is?

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人比人，氣死人!

I think relationships cannot be compared. To what? To another relationship u see across the road or something la. Haiyoh.

Firstly, your partner is different. Your partner is unique in every way, and that's probably why you're attracted to him/her. If he/she is the same as everybody else, why did u choose him/her? Why not someone else?

"How come other people's girlfriend blah blah blah blah..."

Well, go ask "other people's girlfriend" to be your girlfriend lor.

"Why is it that my friend's boyfriend can be so blah blah blah blah..."

Same thing!

Secondly, if from the above examples, u envy someone else's partner, did u take a look at the other partner first? What difference(s) is there between u & him/her? Is he/she more demure or gentlemanly, more softspoken or gentle, sweeter, more submissive, more well-dressed and so on and so forth. Are u treating your partner the way your envy is treating his/hers? "One good turn deserves another" kinda applies here. If u treat ur partner well, he/she will treat you well too. Look at yourself first before looking at your partner.

Thirdly, yes, look at your partner. Are there things that he/she is doing that displeases you? Something that u can't bear, something that irks you, maddens you, frustrates you? Can't bear to say it coz it'll hurt? Well, say it anyways... If there is understanding, hurt wouldn't be much, and wouldn't last long either. If there is love, change is on the way.

U get the gist? Yeah, you do. Good. That's what I mean by cannot be compared.

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Ya mah, if u love someone, ok, if I love someone, I'm willing to sacrifice certain self-comforts, compromise to a reasonable extent, go the extra mile and stuff, just to make her happy. Of course, reasonable extent is debatable. Extra mile is controversial. Therefore I cannot define an exact line to which we should adhere to, because everyone defines their own extent.

I guess to some, a little waver off their normal lives would be unstabilizingly shocking to their routine already, leaving them exposed & insecure. Hence, such people are only ever willing to budge a teeny weeny bit. There are others who are confident of life and can go completely off-character and life would just be another day for them. These people go to great lengths to satisfy or please their partners. Which one are u?

If u ask me, I suppose I would fall into the latter category. I've been there, only to realise it's quite impractical. So maybe I've stepped abit closer to the former category, but I'm still quite bendy. =)

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K, haha! It's 4am and I'm typing about such stuff. Whats the matter with me these past few days man? *sigh*

If you can understand this, it's meant for you:
"I don't understand at all. Stubbornness doesn't show love. Love take a bold step out onto the uncertain. Love keeps both of you there for each other. Love compromises! Man! I know I wouldn't let such a treasure outta my sight, needless to say, my grasp. I really really don't understand. Probably I'm biased la, huh." *sigh*

"... Just take a look in my eyes,
You'll see a love that's blind.
Just take a hold of my hand,
I'll take you to paradise
Ain't a star that's too far.

Your every wish will be a wish
That I will make come true.
And if you want the moon,
I swear I'll bring it down for you.
Let me into your heart...

... I'd walk across the wild for you,
Move mountains if you want me to.
I'd walk across the fire for you,
Do anything you asked me to!

I'd lie for you and that's the truth!
Do anything you asked me to!
I'd even sell my soul for you,
I'd do it all for you,
If you'd just believe in me.

I'd lie for you and that's the truth!
Move mountains if you want me to!
I'd walk across the fire for you,
I'd walk on the wild for you,
If you'd just believe in me...

I'd lie for you and thats the truth."

-Meatloaf: I'd Lie For You (And That's the Truth)

Y'see darling, how important it is to communicate? Yes? Yes. So don't hide anything from me; I am here.

Love me if you dare... 01:13
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