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Sunday, April 29, 2007

My kind of relationships...

I dunno how I should type this, but it's not meant to hint anything or mean or say anything. It's just a statement of my beliefs. So... here goes...

I believe relationships are based on faith, love and honesty, in no particular order as yet. Well, maybe faith would rank as highest.

Take friendships. If you have little faith in your friend, how can you ever trust that friend? Everything you tell to him/her, you fear would spill out and the whole world will know. So, you don't share your deeper thoughts and secrets. You only share superficial feelings, epidermal thoughts... which pretty quickly turn into gossip. And here's what's said about gossipers:

"A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret."
Proverbs 11:13

"A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends."
Proverbs 16:28

"A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much."
Proverbs 20:19

"Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.
As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife. "
Proverbs 26:20-21

Maybe he/she shares her deeper thoughts with you, and you're able to keep it within the both of you... Good for him/her for he/she has found a true friend! But what about yourself? Who's to be your friend?

We all need friends... they're one of the most precious gifts from GOD. Real friends spur each other and encourage each other...

"A despairing man should have the devotion of his friends, even though he forsakes the fear of the Almighty."
Job 6:14

"A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. "
Proverbs 17:17

"And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching."
Hebrews 10:24-25

Real friends rebuke each other, build up each other, stand up for each other...

"Better is open rebuke than hidden love.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses."
Proverbs 27:5-6

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work:
If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Real friends care for and love each other. Real friends DIE for each other...

"Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his
FRIENDS."
John 15:13

Are you a friend to your friends?

I've always had the thought that I would be someone who would readily die for my friends. But just how true is that? I guess I can only find out when I do die... or if I don't and my friend dies...

And after all of the above, shouldn't relationships be even more so? Relationships here refer to boy-girl, husband-wife realtionships. Shouldn't there be more faith, love and honesty than ever have been in a friendship? Because the Bible also tells of numerous accounts where friends (I doubt they're really true friends, but in some cases, even true friends) disappoint, betray and put down their friends. Look at Job's 3 best friends! Classic!

Sometimes, I feel that I value friendship more than relationship. I start to wonder if GOD made me to be a better friend in this world than anything else I can ever be. I begin to wonder if maybe things were not meant to be?

I need to very actively, fervently, enthusiastically and frantically seek GOD's will in my life... as do everyone else. But for me, I feel the urge to do so right now... but how?

"Ev'rytime you kiss me,
I’m still not certain that you love me.
Ev'ry time you hold me,
I’m still not certain that you care.
Though you keep on saying
You really, really, really love me,
Do you speak the same words
To someone else when I’m not there?

Suspicion torments my heart!
Suspicion keeps us apart!
Suspicion why torture me!

Ev'rytime you call me,
And tell me we should meet tomorrow,
I can't help but think that
You're meeting someone else tonight.
Why should our romance just
Keep on causing me such sorrow?
Why am I so doubtful
Whenever you're out of sight?

Darling, if you love me,
I beg you wait a little longer.
Wait until I drive all
These foolish fears out of my mind!
How I hope and pray that
Our love will keep on growing stronger.
Maybe I’m suspicious
'cause true love is so hard to find."

-Elvis Presley: Suspicion

Please don't be suspicious of me... I may be guilty once, but that doesn't mean I will be guilty again. Even a murderer sometimes deserve a second chance at life... It really hurts to not be trusted... =(

Love me if you dare... 10:16
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